One other thing, disconnect the battery and then disconnect the distribution box and flip it over, I have seen a lot of these where the connections to the relays and fuses were so badly corroded that they caused multiple problems, many similar to yours.

 

well thanks guys i am not really driving it right now i live right around the corner from work and i will be going through the wires and everything to see what is what and i was going to clean up everything important. my gf's brakes are bad on her explorer so i have to do those tonight. but in the next week or so i will be getting out there and messing with it and seeing what happened but the fuel pump and alt are still getting replaced no matter what

and for all the dick comments on my thread name i am cool with them talk **** all you want bc i am normally the one talk **** on here so i can take a few back lol